After pondering at random on the subject, this blogger has been reminded of a Christian marriage which made historical record. Here are some excerpts from the internet. My appreciation for the other blogger(s) for the information. I pray that all Christians especially those who travel and spend much time away from their wives or husbands read history of Christian men and women, in addition to those already recorded in the Bible. They are our mirrors.
______________John Wesley and his Wife (excerpts)
(Background notes from another source: Molly Vazeille was a widow who had four children and a nice inheritance from her late husband. She had moved up in social standing… and was a viable candidate for marriage. John Wesley and Molly Vazeille had a courtship of 16 days…John Wesley had it in his mind that his job as intenerate preacher shouldn’t have to be weighed down by his private decision to marry. In Wesley’s mind, he would not preach one less sermon, nor would he travel one less mile on account of a personal matter. Like it or not, Molly would simply have to adjust her expectations to fit John’s “higher calling”…He preached sermons the day before and after the marriage ceremony…Traveling hundreds of miles on horseback and sometimes in the rain was unpleasant to say the least. On occasion, they would have crowds jeer at them. There were also some reports of threats on their lives…Instead of married to his wife, John Wesley was married to his work. She wasn’t really special to him. She was just one of the other girls. Quoted from: http://churchintoronto.blogspot.com/2012/11/sacrificing-your-marriage-on-altar-of.html )
John Wesley was married. His strategy for being a good husband was pretty simple: ‘I cannot understand how a Methodist preacher can answer it to God to preach one sermon or travel one day less, in a married than in a single state.’
At first Molly accompanied him but his travel schedule (by any standard through all church history) was relentless, and she, as a newly married 40 year old woman, was clearly hoping for some normal domestic joys.
Often absent for weeks at a time, Wesley gave his wife permission to open all the mail that came for him. This included many letters from women seeking guidance and counsel, and Molly soon began to feel that some of them had more than a little affection towards her man.
Jealousy, slander and insensitivity
Her jealousy increased, as did her sense of being overlooked by him, and even unloved by him. She began to be, not only troubled by but gripped by jealousy.
She wrote disgruntled, critical, letters to him. She traveled to spy on him. She sent his private papers directly to his enemies that they might slander him. Eventually she publicly and repeatedly accused him of adultery over a period of twenty years.
At one point, after a fierce exchange of letters, he sent a scathing, hostile, reply. ‘Know me and know yourself. Suspect me no more, asperse me no more, provoke me no more: do not any longer contend for mastery…be content to be a private insignificant person, known and loved by God and me.’
In all this, the story of Wesley’s marriage is an unhappy one. But if it is uncomfortable for us to read, let’s not forget that it was far more uncomfortable for him to live. And equally uncomfortable for Molly, who, perhaps was merely hoping to have some of him for herself.
Malachi 2:14-15 New King James Version (NKJV)
14 Yet you say, “For what reason?”
Because the Lord has been witness
Between you and the wife of your youth,
With whom you have dealt treacherously;
Yet she is your companion
And your wife by covenant.
15 But did He not make them one,
Having a remnant of the Spirit?
And why one?
He seeks godly offspring.
Therefore take heed to your spirit,
And let none deal treacherously with the wife of his youth.
1 Corinthians 6:17 New King James Version (NKJV)
17 But he who is joined to the Lord is one spirit with Him.
- John 13:34
A new commandment I give to you, that you love one another; as I have loved you, that you also love one another.
- John 13:35
By this all will know that you are My disciples, if you have love for one another.”
- John 17:21
that they all may be one, as You, Father, are in Me, and I in You; that they also may be one in Us, that the world may believe that You sent Me.