Mighty in the kingdom are the little broken ones who know how to rely on their big, big God. In our frailty, He is so much better and more amazing than we can imagine, and when we meet Him, our plans and our intentions evaporate before the awesome things He has prepared for us. It’s time to lay down our lives and step into His will, purpose, and plan and tune our ears to His voice. To be in tune with Him is to have the mind of Christ and results in thinking and doing things His way.
Heidi Baker at the Revival Alliance Conference hosted by Harvest Rock Church in Pasadena, CA. | Originally Preached: April 2014
Sickness has been a major concern in the history of mankind. Here is a common scene in Biblical time. Lots of people bring their sick relatives and friends for healing by Jesus.
Even today many seek healing everywhere. This passage in Mark chapter six is followed by a teaching by Jesus in chapter seven. Let us meditate on what Jesus teaches about what causes sickness in the first place. Some today would have thought eating the right food is most essential. But Jesus says sickness actually comes from within a person.
Mark 6:53-56 New Living Translation (NLT)
53 After they had crossed the lake, they landed at Gennesaret. They brought the boat to shore54 and climbed out. The people recognized Jesus at once,55 and they ran throughout the whole area, carrying sick people on mats to wherever they heard he was.56 Wherever he went—in villages, cities, or the countryside—they brought the sick out to the marketplaces. They begged him to let the sick touch at least the fringe of his robe, and all who touched him were healed.
Mark 7 New Living Translation (NLT) Jesus Teaches about Inner Purity
1 One day some Pharisees and teachers of religious law arrived from Jerusalem to see Jesus.2 They noticed that some of his disciples failed to follow the Jewish ritual of hand washing before eating…
14 Then Jesus called to the crowd to come and hear. “All of you listen,” he said, “and try to understand.15 It’s not what goes into your body that defiles you; you are defiled by what comes from your heart.[h]”
17 Then Jesus went into a house to get away from the crowd, and his disciples asked him what he meant by the parable he had just used.18 “Don’t you understand either?” he asked. “Can’t you see that the food you put into your body cannot defile you?19 Food doesn’t go into your heart, but only passes through the stomach and then goes into the sewer.” (By saying this, he declared that every kind of food is acceptable in God’s eyes.)
20 And then he added, “It is what comes from inside that defiles you.21 For from within, out of a person’s heart, come evil thoughts, sexual immorality, theft, murder,22 adultery, greed, wickedness, deceit, lustful desires, envy, slander, pride, and foolishness.23 All these vile things come from within; they are what defile you.”
Dear _______________: ( a depressed Christian teen/child) You must know this important good news – Father God loves you! Knowing this will set you well and happy and successful. God answers your prayers. Don’t stop praying! You can pray a lot in the Spirit (in tongue) so the Holy Spirit can help you to pray. The Holy Spirit can pray for you and your prayers will get answered. (Read Jude 20)
READ the following sentences (which are all verses) ALOUD EVERYDAY!
“I AM LOVED BY MY FATHER GOD IN HEAVEN! ” 我被天父所爱
My heavenly Father always loves me. 天父从来没有不爱我。
Father God has loved me with an everlasting love. Jeremiah 31:3 他用永恒的爱来爱我。耶31.3
My Father God loves me very much. 天父甚爱我
He even gave me Jesus so I can understand His love for me. John 3:16 甚至将耶稣赐给我叫我能认识他的爱。约3.16
My Father God loves me very much; He wants to show me His love. John 16:27 天父甚爱我，他要向我表达他对我的爱。约16.27
Nothing can separate me from Father God’s love. Even my sin cannot block Father God’s love for me. Romans 8:39 并无任何东西，包括我的过错，能隔绝他对我的爱。罗8.39
Father God loves me just as He loves Jesus (His Son) because I believe in Jesus. 天父甚爱我如同他爱耶稣一样，只因我信耶稣。
Although sometimes I am weak Father God still asks me to sit with Jesus in heaven. Ephesians 2:4-6 虽有时我软弱，天父叫我与耶稣同坐在天上。弗2.4-6
Father God fills me to the full with His overflowing love. Ephesians 3:19 天父用爱充满我使我福杯满溢。弗3.19
Father God likes me and delights in me 天父喜悦我
Even when I am hurt Father God still loves me and delights in me. Psalm 149:4 即使我受了创伤，天父任然爱我和喜悦我。诗149.4
Father God’s thoughts and plans for me are all good and give me a future and a hope. Jeremiah 29:11 神对我的思念都是好的，都是充满盼望的。耶29.11
In Father God’s eyes I am beautiful and pleasing beyond words. Song of Songs 1:15-16 我在天父眼里是华美的，漂亮的， 美好的。雅歌1.15-16 Father God delights in my love for Him. Song of Songs 4:10 天父欢喜悦纳我对他的爱。雅歌4.10
Father God delights in me being His child; He will never leave me; He wants to provide everything I need. Luke 15:31 天父喜悦我成为他的孩子，他永不丢弃我，他要供应我一切所需。路15.31
Father God delights to be with me. He wants to make His home with me. John 14:23 天父喜悦与我在一起，他要住在我里面。约14.23
Father God has given me meaning in living my life 他使我活着有意义
I am the light and salt of the world. Matthew 5:13 我是世界的光和盐。太5.13-14
I am a witness for God (Jesus). Acts 1:8 我是见证神的人。徒1.8
I can reconcile people to God. 2 Corinthians 5:18 我可劝人与神和好。林后5.18
God has made me Christ’s (God’s) ambassador to represent the Kingdom of God. 2 Corinthians 5:20 神差我为他的大使，天国的代表。林后5.20
I can do everything through Christ who gives me strength. Philippians 4:13 在基督里我凡事都能做。腓4.13
Jesus is not ashamed to call me His brother or sister. Hebrews 2:11 神不因我感到羞耻。来2.11
He is pleased to be my God. I have faith in Him. Hebrews 11:6 他很荣欣做我的上帝。来11.6
Father God has forgiven all my sins 天父已经赦免了我
Father God has forgiven all my sins. He will never remember my sins. Jeremiah 31:34 天父已经赦免了我，完全忘记了我的过犯。耶31.34
He trampled my sins under His feet and threw them into the depths of the ocean. Micah 7:18-19 他把我众罪踩在他脚下，并把它们投在深海里去。弥迦7.18-19
Father God has purchased my freedom and forgiven my sins. Colossians 1:14 神买赎了我，赦免了我. 歌罗西1.14
When I confess my sins to Him he is faithful and just to forgive me my sins and to cleanse me from all wickedness. 1 John 1:9 他洗净我的罪。约一1:9
Father God has accepted me as His child 天父已经接受我
He called me His child (child of God) . John 1:12 他称我做他的儿女。约1.12 He called me friend of Jesus. John 15:15 他召我成为主的朋友。约15.15
In Jesus Christ I am totally righteous. Made right in God’s sight by faith because of what Jesus Christ has done for me. Romans 5:1 在主耶稣里我完全公义，好似我从来没有犯过罪一样。罗5.1
I belong to Father God. 1 Corinthians 6:19 我属于天父。林前6.19
in Christ I am complete. Colossians 2:10 在基督里我是完全的人。西2.10
I am safe in Father God 在天父里我很安全
No-one can condemn me now. The power of the Holy Spirit has freed me from the power of sin. Romans 8:1-2 我不被定罪了。罗8.1-2
Father God is on my side and no-one can be against me. Romans 8:31 天父为我，拥护我，并不敌对我。罗8.31
Trouble cannot separate me from God’s love. Romans 8:35 患难不能使我和神的爱隔绝。罗8.35
My real life is hidden with Christ in God. Colossians 3:3 我的生命与基督一同藏在神里面。西3.3
God has given me a spirit of power, love, and self-discipline. 2 Timothy 1:7 我得着刚强、仁爱、谨守的心。提后1.7
I can come to God to obtain mercy and grace in time of need. Hebrews 4:16 当我伤痛时，我能找到神的安慰和恩典。来4.16
Father God’s perfect love casts out all my fears. 1 John 4:18 天父的爱把我的惧怕驱散了。约一4.18
The evil one cannot touch me because Jesus holds me securely. 1 John 5:18 恶者不能害我。约一5.18
When I am afraid Father God will carry me in His arms and hold me on His lap. Isaiah 66:12-13 当我惧怕时，天父要抱我在肋旁。赛66.12-13
Father God does not condemn me 天父不审判我
Father God sent Jesus to save me and not to judge me. John 3:16-18 神差耶稣来不是要审判我，乃是要救我。约3.16-18
Father God does not judge me. Jesus came to save me and not judge me. John 5:22; 12:47 天父并不审判我。因他要来拯救我。约5.22 约12.47
I am a child of Father God ! 我是天父的儿女！
Jesus loves you very much. He died to save you ! You are very precious to Father God.
Today’s healing word is be “Free”. Be free and be in divine health.
In John chapter eight, Jesus talks about how to be set free. Only Jesus can set free. Jesus is the Truth, the Son of God. The Truth sets a believer free from sins, free from sickness and disease,, free from oppressions and depressions, free from all bondages (body, soul, and spirit).
The Truth Shall Make You Free. Jesus is the Truth.
31 Then Jesus said to those Jews who believed Him, “If you abide in My word, you are My disciples indeed. 32 And you shall know the truth, and the truth shall make you free.”
33 They answered Him, “We are Abraham’s descendants, and have never been in bondage to anyone. How can You say, ‘You will be made free’?”
34 Jesus answered them, “Most assuredly, I say to you, whoever commits sin is a slave of sin. 35 And a slave does not abide in the house forever, but a son abides forever.
36 Therefore if the Son makes you free, you shall be free indeed.
Romans 8:1[ Free from Indwelling Sin ] There is therefore now no condemnation to those who are in Christ Jesus, who do not walk according to the flesh, but according to the Spirit.
Colossians 3:10-12 New King James Version (NKJV) 10 and have put on the new man who is renewed in knowledge according to the image of Him who created him, 11 where there is neither Greek nor Jew, circumcised nor uncircumcised, barbarian, Scythian, slave nor free, but Christ is all and in all.
12 Therefore, as the elect of God, holy and beloved, put on tender mercies, kindness, humility, meekness, longsuffering;
Don’t beafraidof what you are about to suffer. The devil will throw some of you into prison to test you. You will suffer for ten days. But if you remain faithful even when facing death, I will give you the crown of life.
Words: Howard A. Walter, 1906 (verses 1-3); S. Ralph Harlow (verses 4-6), circa 1918. Walter wrote this hymn while living in Japan. He sent it to his mother, who forwarded it to Harper’s Magazine, which published it. Ralph Harlow’s daughter Ruth Harlow Berman wrote:
My father was a friend of Howard Walter—and after Mr. Walter’s death, he had a dream in which Mr. Walter told him that he had three more verses he would like added to his hymn “I Would Be True.”
_______________________Howard A. Walter, 1906 (verses 1-3);
I would be true, for there are those who trust me; I would be pure, for there are those who care; I would be strong, for there is much to suffer; I would be brave, for there is much to dare; I would be brave, for there is much to dare.
I would be friend of all—the foe, the friendless; I would be giving, and forget the gift; I would be humble, for I know my weakness; I would look up, and laugh, and love and lift. I would look up, and laugh, and love and lift.
I would be faithful through each passing moment; I would be constantly in touch with God; I would be strong to follow where He leads me; I would have faith to keep the path Christ trod; I would have faith to keep the path Christ trod.
_______________________S. Ralph Harlow (verses 4-6), circa 1918.
Who is so low that I am not his brother? Who is so high that I’ve no path to him? Who is so poor, that I may not feel his hunger? Who is so rich I may not pity him? Who is so rich I may not pity him?
Who is so hurt I may not know his heartache? Who sings for joy my heart may never share? Who in God’s heaven has passed beyond my vision? Who to Hell’s depths where I may never fare? Who to Hell’s depths where I may never fare?
May none, then, call on me for understanding, May none, then, turn to me for help in pain, And drain alone his bitter cup of sorrow, Or find he knocks upon my heart in vain. Or find he knocks upon my heart in vain.
Here are more excerpts quoted from the above healing book for the emotionally hurting. I am led in my spirit to quote step 5 (excerpts only) this round. I pray you too will find the gems here encourage you to get hold of the whole book and read many times. Believe that you can be healed!
Blogger’s Update on June 7 2018: When I quoted this book five years ago I did not know about divine healing and the truth that a believer can claim the healing that Jesus had accomplished on the cross. He took away all diseases when He received the stripes on His back. It means the diseases whether mental or physical have no right to stay on your body. Jesus asked us to speak direct to the mountain and cast it away. You can declare the following verses and use the name of Jesus and command the symptoms and the causes thereof to leave you!
Isaiah 53:5 “But He was wounded for our transgressions, He was bruised for our iniquities; The chastisement for our peace was upon Him, And by His stripes we are healed.” Matthew 8:16-17 When evening had come, they brought to Him many who were demon-possessed. And He cast out the spirits with a word, and healed all who were sick, 17 that it might be fulfilled which was spoken by Isaiah the prophet, saying: “He Himself took our infirmities And bore our sicknesses.” 1 Peter 2:24 who Himself bore our sins in His own body on the tree, that we, having died to sins, might live for righteousness—by whose stripes you were healed.
___________Excerpts quoted from the book:
We find it easier and more natural to believe in the dark side of things and in the negative side of life than in the bright and positive side of things.
I know that when I can get people to believe in the positive, more than half the battle is won.
THOSE WHO ARE HURTING MUST BELIEVE THAT THEY CAN COME OUT OF IT AND THAT THEY CAN RISE ABOVE THOSE HURTS. If you think otherwise, you are fighting a losing battle and you will not find emotional wholeness.
The story of the epileptic boy in Matthew 17 is a very touching one. The Lord Jesus Christ raised a challenging and heart-searching question (in reply to the father who sought healing for his son from Jesus) in His reply, saying, “If thou can believe!” Immediately the man dropped on his knees and cried out, “I believe! Help Thou my unbelief!”
What the man was saying in actual fact, I believe, was this, “O Lord, I do believe but my human believing is so week, it seems to still contain an element of unbelief, Therefor my believing and my faith need Your divine support.”
This, then, is the condition of all our hearts. Doubts even in the midst of our faith!
It was during my years of church planting and pioneering that I personally came to understand the meaning of this verse and the condition of my own heart…I was like a fountain that was spurting out both hot and cold water at the same time. I had faith to sever from the “established past”, so to speak, and yet has no faith to move wholeheartedly into the future.
Ask God to help you believe…
We must take the Word of the Lord literally…
If you find yourself in this (belief-unbelief) situation while seeking for emotional healing, just say, “Lord, I will not be discouraged and I thank You for healing me. Help me to go through this period of feeling so ‘unhealed’.”
It is the fact that we must confess and think about, not the feelings. The fact is that God has promised to heal us and we have been healed by His (Jesus’) stripes. We must then apply this healing to ourselves.
I remember helping another sister through a very difficult time. She had woken me up at about three in the morning. with tear-filled eyes, she told me that she could not sleep after reading from the newspaper that evening that her former boyfriend was going to marry another woman, an air hostess. This was so strange because they had split up about four years ago and she had, through all these years, continued to live a vibrant and active life.
“But when I read that announcement…all those hurt feelings came back…My mind keeps remembering those old times…”
This is true. When our minds bring back the memories, they also bring back the feelings, whether good or bad.
In my own experience…I immediately reach out to God and pray, “I claim the blood of Jesus Christ over all of these hurting memories and I rebuke these mental and emotional oppressions in the name of Jesus.” God in His mercy and love has not failed failed me once.
Very often, Satan…will draw my attention to familiar sights and similar looking people and remind me, “Doesn’t this man look like him? Look, he is smiling at you in the same way that ______ used to smile at you!” “This is the same type of perfume and chocolate he used to buy you” or “This was the coffee house you both came to so many years ago.”
And I have, unashamedly, run and turned to Him (God) at all odd times and in odd places. In toilets, in the supermarkets, in the kitchen while stirring a cup of coffee, in an airplane, in the hair saloon with my head under a blower, under the shower, in the midst of a facial etc. Anytime, anywhere, whenever the hurtful memories strike, I just reach out to Him, Who alone is my healing balm…
(Back to the story about the hurting woman)..I told her that the Lord has definitely healed her of that past hurt and that those lousy feelings would not stay if she was determined not to let them stay.
“Rebuke them and do not let Satan bring back the past memories and ugly hurt feelings to rob you of the reality of God’s healing. You don’t have to let these mental and emotional oppressions stay.”
I told her to begin to concentrate on the facts – this man was not in God’s plan for her life -to be able to accept this helps in the healing of hurts. Also, four years ago, she had already with God that she would release him ans God had already healed her of that emotional hurt and trauma.
Praise God, my friend cooperated and she allowed the facts, not her feelings, to take hold of her that night. The next morning she was as good as new.
The apostel Paul told the church of Philippi that they must by God’s power, discipline their minds to think of the things that positive. This means our minds can actually be trained to dwell on things we want them to.
Yes, God is more than able to heal your broken-heartedness…Believe because this is the truth: Jesus Christ is more than able to heal you and help you rise above those hurts in life. (Blogger’s comment: Jesus had already healed you. You just need to believe and declare you are healed and command the “mountain” to leave you and cast into the sea!)
How to deal with your broken heart 3: the humor amidst the tears (by Susan Tang)
I came across this author (pastor, church planter, prophet, Bible teacher, watchman/intercessor) and her teaching about five years ago. I attended a number of her seminars (all with not a dull moment). I bought all her books and read most of them, as the Spirit led me. She teaches with passion for the word of God. Her passion is infectious. But I have noted some qualities in her for young disciples of Jesus to emulate: honesty, integrity, courage and boldness, authority and power, that come from a life of living before God.
In this book, she wrote from her personal experience with the objective to heal and set free those who are hurting. However, I have read with a smile from time to time. Susan is known for her genuine human character too, her great sense of humor! I have put together some excerpts (at random) here from the book reflecting this human aspect. I believe you will smile too when you picture those incidents which had been so vividly described!
As a pastor, I had to share many experiences of hurt and heart-brokenness. Out of all these experiences, there were two that wounded me very deeply. Both of these incidents happened when I was still very young as a person and very inexperienced as a pastor. I did not really know how to handle hurts, whether on my own or others. I went to an excellent Bible School but unfortunately, I was not taught how to handle hurts. I do not believe this can be taught in the classroom….
The second experience of a broken heart concerned my housemate (Joelin)…She came to my bedroom one night, dropped herself, all 138 pounds, onto my lap and then started to sob and cry hysterically.
I held her (thinking her appendix had ruptured as she ha complained of suspected appendicitis sometimes back) and didn’t really know what to do until her younger sister, Bina, came in and told me point-blank, “That bastard Roger left her for another girl!” “Oh?” I replied. Tears started to trickle down my cheeks all the way to Joelin’s back. I couldn’t free myself to get any tissue; she had nailed me down with her 138 pounds. Bina also started crying, holding and pulling art my right leg. I did not mind the holding but I hated the pulling and rubbing her wet nose against it. Before I could tell her to stop, the youngest of the sisters, Linda, came in, held onto my other leg and did exactly the same thing!
Now after almost 12 years (31 years ago from present day), as I write about it, it seems so hilarious – four women crying themselves crazy just because one had a lousy boyfriend who got away! Sometimes women were so cooperative! At the time it happened, it was not funny. I hurt like mad for Joelin, so much so that I did not even go to work for the next two days. I was afraid she would commit suicide…
Three years later when I met Bina, who had by then already married, she told me the sad news, “Joelin is terrible. She has hurt my mom so badly…she is like the town’s prostitute.”..
Poor Joelin. One bad man called Roger hurt her and she was left wounded for life. But is it really true that life comes to an end for a person when his or her romance or marriage fails?…HOW DOES ONE COME OUT OF IT?
As Christians, we also need to truthfully ask ourselves this question: Has God left us any resources in our quest for emotional healing and wholeness? The glad answer is YES! An absolute YES! The Lord Jesus Christ is more than able to heal the broken-hearted. But we must cooperate with Him. There is definitely something we can do for ourselves in our quest for emotional healing…
STEP 1: STOP BELIEVING THE DEVIL’S LIES.
Lie 1 – “If Michael walks out on me, I’ll commit suicide for I have no reason to go on living.”
Or “If Jean leaves, I’ll die for I really cannot do without her.”
This is a lie…we are not to make another human person the sole reason for our existence..This then is the truth: GOD ALONE IS TO BE THE ULTIMATE REFERENCE POINT IN OUR LIVES, THE SOLE REASON FOR OUR EXISTENCE.
Certainly, the sense of loss, of lack and worthlessness will be there. But these feelings need not stay for good…Satan will fight to keep you in bondage to these feelings…but Satan is a liar who has no choice but to let go if you resist him steadfastly.
Lie 2 – “I don’t think I can ever love again.”
To confess such a thing is in reality to say something like this: “The past is too powerful to be forgotten and I cannot be cleansed from its influence.” Or “God is so limited. He has only given me just one person in this great big universe with whom I can be happy…”
I had a friend who was like this…she had one broken relationship and it robbed her almost totally of all joys and the meaning of living. (She stayed away from almost every place where men could be found and where she could be reminded of …the man who left her. Places included: camps, bookstores and supermarkets that sell wedding or engagement cards, even babies!). (to be continued)
PREFACE: WHY I WROTE THIS BOOK (excerpts/summary from book by Pastor Susan Tang))
Actually I wrote this book for a number of reasons. The number one reason is that I am weary. I am weary from being confronted by so many broken-hearted people and weary with having to repeat the same counsel time and time again. “Hurts are sometimes almost tangible and definitely contagious.”
A few years ago after I started a women’s ministry in my church, I was suddenly plunged into a world of hurting women. Some were hurting and helpless, some were hurting and revengeful, some were hurting and demonic, some were hurting and confused, and some were hurting and had become both impenetrable and weird!
How is it that the world is so full of hurting women? And hurting men? Although we had advertised in the local papers that the HELPLINE was only for women, men called up, and one shouted at me when I told him that the HELPLINE was for women only.
“What the ***! Don’t you know we men hurt too? …How come you help women and not men?” I had no answer, so I had to replace the receiver and unhook the phone for a while…
Since the women ministry started here in…years ago, I have been writing articles and giving talks on this subject on how to rise above our hurts and heart-brokenness. Letters have come and women have asked for more… I enjoyed doing this at first but after …years, I decided that I should stop. Then somebody said, “You have stopped teaching, but people have not stopped hurting.”
This is so true. So why not bring all the articles together and rewrite them? This is how this book came about and this is why I wrote this book.
When God brings us through experiences like hurts, He definitely has a purpose. He wants us to grow up spiritually…I am also grateful to people, for it is from people, hurting people, that I have learned the most.
“The one lesson that looms above the rest is this: There is to be only one great, lifelong, consuming love affair for a child of God and it is to be with the Lord Jesus Christ Himself. God Himself wants to be our first love object.”
Each time a hurting person comes to me for counseling and prayer, the Holy Spirit will urge me to tell her, “Listen, just open your heart to Jesus and love Him and have Him love you back.” Or I would say, “No, right now your need is not to be reconciled with Michael or jean or whoever. Your need right now is to love Jesus with all of your heart and have Him love you in return.”
And over and over again, I have seen the miracle happen:
THAT WHEN PEOPLE DARE TO MAKE GOD THEIR FIRST LOVE, SITUATIONS AND CIRCUMSTANCES CHANGE FOR THEM OR THEY THEMSELVES CHANGE AND THIS IS SO MUCH BETTER!
Yes, God does want to be our first love. We see this in the first book of the Bible, Genesis, where God tested the heart of Abraham by asking him to sacrifice his only son !…One can see plainly that God was not after Abraham’s son, BUT HE WAS AFTER ABRAHAM’S HEART.
To all who are reading this book, my prayer for you is that you will find healing and emotional wholeness from the God Who Himself has drawn you to Him. I am praying for you. You will find healing for that broken heart as surely as Jesus rose from the grave. The grave had no power to bind Jesus Christ and just like the grave, hurts have no power to bind you or hold you because you are a child of God…
This book by Pastor Susan Tang is on my “must read End Times Books List”. It is not online so I quote some excerpts (mainly from Chapter/Step Seven, “Forgive !”) here and share with the readers of this blog. The author wrote this book mainly for women who hurt, but men hurt too, she was told. Please be encouraged to read the whole book. To all who are reading this book, the author’s prayer is that “you will find healing and emotional wholeness from the God Who Himself has drawn you to Him”.
You will find that, quoting from the book,
“In ourselves, we cannot bring down the wall of unforgiveness. The hurt is so deep and the bitterness defiles so many, but God can help us. God can energize us to do the impossible.”
Excerpts from the book: ____________________
A personal word (from the author, 2008): “When I wrote this book 14 years ago, I had no idea that God would take it so far to touch and heal so many lives…At least three suicides have been aborted and many readers have found relief and a new beginning through the pages of this book. Thank you Lord, for prompting me to writing it.”
“This touching testimony came from a British woman married to an Indian man. She had left everything, including breaking family ties to follow her husband back to this country. After two years of marriage, he left her for another woman and she sank into depression and attempted suicide twice. A friend in England sent her this book! She told me she read it twice and started to heal. She came out of depression and is now serving in a counseling center for battered wives…
“Another testimony came from a woman who had a fifteen-year relationship with a man. When he returned to his wife, she was ready to jump from the balcony of her sixth floor apartment. Someone gave her this book and she read it many, many times. God brought her healing through the pages and today she is moving on -she has a good job and new friends…and I am one of them.”
“These are just two of the women I have met face to face; there are many more out there…
“Pain and sorrow is a powerful language -It has a way of speaking to us, of penetrating below our surface to change us, mould us, shape us…to make better (or worse) people out of us. Yes, may all of us who have had a broken heart experience come out of it and be a better person. May we also in times of pain, learn to identify with God for God is a God who knows pain and sorrow…”
CONTENTS: Acknowledgements; a personal word; preface -why I wrote this book; How to deal with your broken heart and rise above your hurt: Steps 1-11: stop believing the devil’s lies; express the hurt; let others bear the hurt; extend the scope of your life; believe that you can be healed; pray in the language of the Spirit; FORGIVE! (CAPS by this blogger) feed on the Word; remember, time is needed; appropriate God’s dynamic resources! submit to deliverance.
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Chapter/Step Seven: FORGIVE !
“We need and need and need, many times over, God’s divine energy and supernatural power to help us forgive. What is life without forgiveness?“
A. Forgiving God
Each time a Christian is hurt, I believe there are actually two parties that she needs to forgive (sometimes maybe even three, including the self). We need to forgive the person who has hurt us and we need to forgive God for allowing us that hurt.
When we ask, “Why, Lord?” we are actually asking God why He did not stop or prevent it. Therefor if NEED BE, we also need to forgive God if we think God has wronged us or that He is to be blamed for all our troubles.
I have to convince many people that God is not behind their troubles. God is not against them but they refused to believe it. Perhaps you are one of the foolish ones. If we were to take it then that God really is the one causing you all these mishaps, can you forgive Him? We are concerned about your healing, we are not concerned about God’s ego or hurting God. God is more concerned for your healing and your being wholesome.
If Jesus could take all those beatings, shame and humiliation on the cross to bring you wholesomeness and healing, what is this little chip of misunderstanding and blame to Him?…
So many people say, in the midst of their hurts, that they cannot reach out for God…unless you forgive, you cannot have communication. So, if you think you need it, for your own good and healing, say, “God, I forgive You.”
B. Forgiving the person or persons who inflicted the hurt
Yes, forgiving the person who has hurt us is not easy, not even natural. It draws up blood and guts and everything else from within us.
Take for example, the case of Linda, a 22 year old girl I met not long ago. Married for just eight months, her husband deserted her for her best friend. Her best friend had seen him…at a party and commented to another friend, “I won’t give up until I have him.” It took her just five months…and Linda’s husband fell into her arms…
Linda, hurt to her very core, attempted suicide twice but did not die. Both times she was hospitalized…
When Linda came to see me, something within me wanted to withdraw from her. Her hurt and pain were almost tangible and definitely contagious. And yes, Linda couldn’t forgive. I told her she had to choose between forgiveness and hell. She surprised me by replying that she preferred to go to hell (“I am already in it now.’) since going to hell required no effort but forgiving did.
Emotionally, Linda was devastated. Satan had taken advantage of the situation to turn her hurt into something really ugly and demonic, making her negative, impenetrable and defiant, even to those who sincerely wanted to help her.
Physically, she was just awful. (bloodshot eyes, foul breath, hair matted, lipstick caked on parched lips, jagged nails, perfume soured on her dress…)
That 40 minutes or so of ministry was very, very difficult…and because of her self imposed isolation was so deep. I felt I could not reach her to bring hope to her battered, broken spirit -but God, what a God! Praise to Him Who specializes in impossibilities!
God was with us that afternoon although I had a hard time feeling His presence…when I weakly asked Linda (not expecting a positive reply, actually) if she wanted prayer, she nodded.
Before we could finish praying, Linda fell onto the floor, hard as the Lord’s Spirit came over her and she cried inaudibly, with just a few tiny drops of tears trickling down the corners of her eyes. She got up a few minutes later, obviously embarrassed and shocked to find herself sprawled on the cement floor. She just bolted out of the door and disappeared! I lost contact with her after that.
Four months later, one evening when I was having dinner at a Chinese restaurant, I saw somebody sitting across from my table who looked so much like her. “No, it couldn’t be,” I thought to myself. “This one is fatter. She’s laughing and she looks well. No, it can’t be her.”
But I was wrong and it was Linda. I walked over to say “Hi” and did not ask further…she squeezed my hand as I was about to leave and said, “Everything’s okay now. I forgave that ***bastard and I decided I should let him go. Better now than when I have children…God really did touch me that day and helped me to forgive that ***bastard and also that ***girlfriend of his!”
Praise the Lord! She found victory! She found release! She found forgiveness and she found life! But, of course, she still needed to change her language!
“We need and need and need, many times over, God’s divine energy and supernatural power to help us forgive. What is life without forgiveness?“
If we go by feelings, there is no way we can move this mountain and make progress…i learned then that forgiveness is not just a feeling, but action!
AS LONG AS YOU WANT TO FORGIVE, DO NOT BE BOTHERED BY THE FEELINGS -ACT AGAINST THEM! These feelings, like the mighty walls of Jericho, will soon collapse as you obey the word of the Lord and act against them.
There is no need to feel condemned if you still have all these feelings of unforgiveness. The important thing is to make sure that there is a beginning to your wanting to forgive.
“In ourselves, we cannot bring down the wall of unforgiveness. The hurt is so deep and the bitterness defiles so many, but God can help us. God can energize us to do the impossible.”
Those who do not forgive may have such high prices to pay: ill health, cancer, ulcers, arthritis, premature death etc.
So, forgive with God’s help. Pick up the hammer today and start to bring that wall down. God will be right there to help you.